What can I do if my birth path changes?

Often when speaking with families, this is an area where they feel like they need extra support – what if my plans change?

What are my choices?

Am I allowed?

Ultimately- every choice is yours and if you do come across any curveballs, these tips can be used to help support you to do what’s right for you and your baby. A few around traditional hypnobirthing and some are around making informed choices

During all of my classes, I’m keen to help support you to feel confident in this area – this is what hypnobirthing is.

It’s about preparing in a variety of different ways in order to help our bodies and minds feel safe

Here are some of my top tips for you – I’d love to hear your thoughts.

  • Remember that every decision is yours and yours alone – no one can demand you to do anything.
  • Ask for research and alternative opinions – is what’s being suggested based on you specifically or is it a generic recommendation? You and your baby are individuals so things should be suggested as such.
  • Ask for time & privacy to chat with someone you trust – it’s rare we don’t have time to discuss things & really think them through. Don’t feel you need to make a decision on the spot.
  • Take some long deep breaths, close your eyes and take a moment for yourself.
  • Use the affirmation – ‘I take control of what I can and I let go of what I can’t.’
  • Weigh up the benefits & risks using the BRAINS acronym.
  • Listen to your gut – even if it doesn’t know the answer, it will guide you down the path you want to take next.

Georgie’s Positive Birth Story – Birthing in a lockdown

I went into hospital to be induced at 41+2 which was really daunting going on my own due to birth partners not being allowed. 

At the point of induction, my waters were accidentally broken which meant I was then admitted onto the antenatal ward, as my surges began to come and I was facing the unknown with the birth of my first baby, listening to my hypnobirthing tracks and focusing my mind really helped, including spraying my favourite calming perfume, to help me relax into it. 

Later that evening I was taken into the labour suite and told I was unable to give birth in the pool, so a change to my original plan, but with the lights dimmed and music playing I created a calming environment, made even better when my boyfriend was finally able to come in. I delivered Indie Sophia Eileen Newman 7 hours later with just gas and air, without medical intervention despite the Midwives and doctors saying I would need assisted delivery as we got to the later stages. 

In my birth plan, assisted delivery really worried me and something I really didn’t want, so I gave everything I’d got by taking myself out of that room, letting my partner speak to the medical team and taking myself to my calming place, repeating affirmations over and over again, and had a natural birth xx

You’d do your research before a holiday, so why not birth?

This is one of the ways that you can take back control of your birth ?⠀

When it comes to booking a holiday, we spend so much time looking into it. Where to go, what the hotel looks like, what sort of place it is but for some reason we don’t always do the same thing when it comes to the most important days of our lives – when our baby is born.⠀ ⠀⠀

One of the best ways to feel in control is by doing your own research and asking questions when you’ve got something that just keeps niggling at you. Don’t ignore your niggles- they are there for a reason.⠀

I don’t mean searching through Google where there can be unreliable information, I mean having a look at reliable sources of information – once you’ve got this, you’ll feel more informed and be able to make a decision that works for YOU no one else. ⠀

So many women say to me that ‘I’m not allowed or ‘they told me’ but at the end of the day, who’s baby is it? Whose body? Whose birth? ⠀

You are in the driver’s seat, just like you are when it comes to booking that holiday and remember that no question is a silly question!!!⠀

If your anything like me you might get white coat syndrome around medical professionals, yet, it’s important to remember that we are all people.. all on the same par so if you think your question will make you feel better- ask it and don’t ever be afraid to say it’s not right for you… because it’s 100% you’re right ?⠀